Men Rejoice!
It seems women get all the best sexual "perks".... G-spots, multiple orgasms, and the ability to keep having sex without waiting for erections to return to life. Well, men... rejoice! There's good news about enhanced sexual pleasure that's just waiting to be explored - your prostate. With a little open-minded adventure into male anal sex, ultra-powerful, geyser-like orgasms can be attained with remarkably little effort.

What is the Prostate?
The prostate isn't just a body part that needs to be probed at the doctor's office, nor is anal play reserved exclusively for gay men. Just about every man, whether they admit it or not, enjoys anal stimulation to some degree. During orgasm, men frequently notice strong contractions of the anal region, a muscular response directly involving the prostate gland. The prostate gland is located just an inch or so inside the opening of the anus, just outside the rectal wall. Its function is to close the urine duct to allow sperm to flow during ejaculation, and also to produce a fluid involved in the production of semen. It is a very sensitive gland... so much so that, when stimulated, some (very lucky!) men can experience orgasm without an erection.

A Male G-Spot?
While prostate stimulation has been equated to a woman's G-spot, it is actually very different. The G-spot is in a much different location, just behind the pubic bone, then the corresponding male prostate, and, furthermore, the G-spot is a not a gland. However, it is similar, in that when stimulated properly, it can produce heightened, long and intense orgasms and stronger, longer-lasting erections. Of course, like any other form of sex play, anal/prostate stimulation isn't for everyone. Some people may associate it with gay sex, or feel it's dirty or shameful. And, as with playing with the testicles, others may simply not respond to it or may even find prostate stimulation irritating or uncomfortable. When exploring male anal sex, take things slowly, communicate, and respect your partner's sensitivities - both physical and mental.

Location, Location, Location.
Some men will enjoy just having slight pressure placed on the outside of their anus during sex (licking, or "rimming", works very well, also), with a little increased pressure leading into and during orgasm. A vibrator can intensify this significantly, even without insertion. To find the prostate, facing your partner, gently insert a finger into the anus to approximately the second knuckle and press in a "come hither" manner. The prostate can be felt through the rectal wall.

Preparation
Using a good-quality lubricant is essential, because the rectum, unlike the vagina, does not produce natural lubrication. Using the finger to understand specifically where a man's prostate is located is a good idea before using toys such as vibrators, butt plugs, or dildos. If you're put off by the idea of inserting your finger into his rectum, use a surgical glove or a condom. In fact, he may feel uncomfortable with the idea and may feel more at ease if you wear a surgical glove.

Toys!
As your experience increases with your partner's anal region, and you know where his prostate is and how he likes it stimulated, you can venture into the diverse and exciting world of anal sex toys. It's always better to use toys specifically designed for this kind of play, because it can actually be dangerous using other objects. Hospital emergency rooms have all had their fair share of odd objects (soda bottles and light bulbs, for instance) that have been swallowed inside the powerful anal muscles - which can easily pull things inside, but won't release them without surgical assistance (yikes!). Good-quality sex toys feature some type of retainer to prevent losing them inside the body. Butt Plugs, for example, feature a "flange" at the base... a widened, flat area that is not inserted. Smaller vibrators sometimes have wrist cords, and anal beads have a larger ring at the end of the string. These features are not just meant to prevent insertion, but also to aid in removing the toy (during orgasm or afterwards).

Timing is Everything.
One of the key factors in successfully intensifying male orgasm using anal stimulation is knowing when to remove a finger or sex toy. In most cases, removing the finger or toy at the point of climax has the most intensifying effect on male orgasm. This happens because of the pressures being placed against the rectal and anal muscles while they are contracting.

Choosing a Toy

Anal Beginner
Anal beads, are one of the easiest "beginner" toys used to achieve an intensified orgasm, and can be used with a partner or, unlike some toys, as an easy-to-use masturbation aid. A string of balls that are coated with lube are easily inserted one-by-one into the rectum, where they stay almost unnoticed until the point of orgasm. At that time, they are pulled out of the rectum - producing an intense jolt of pleasure as each ball passes the anus. Multiple sizes of anal beads are available, from small to large.

Anal Intermediate
Butt Plugs are designed specifically to place pressure on the anus and, for most (straight men in particular), can appear quite intimidating and large. However, they work exceptionally well to stimulate the more experienced anal sex explorer. Butt Plugs feature a "flange" at the base - a widened, flat area that is not inserted. G-Spot Vibrators, while designed for the female anatomy, can work very well to stimulate the prostate.

Anal Advanced
Because they are harder to control, I recommend saving Strap-Ons for when you and your partner really know your way around anal sex.

A Few Ins and Outs for Anal Love Play:

• At least an hour before sex, have a bowel movement to clear the lower regions of the rectum. This will limit any fecal matter that can get in the way of anal sex.
• Take a shower before sex, and clean the anal region vigorously. It's not a bad way to get things rolling...!
• Use plenty of lubrication ... you almost can't have enough. However, if you're using any latex, remember not to use petroleum-based products, as they will destroy it.
• Play with your partner in a position where they're the most comfortable. For some, it might be lying back, and for others it might be sitting, kneeling, or squatting