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What is Fisting?
Fisting is the act of inserting your hand in to your partner’s vagina or anus and then forming your hand in to a fist.

Essential Ingredients
The two most important ingredients for a successful fisting experience are a caring, adventurous partner and your own willingness. You can be fisted vaginally, analy, or both, but for today lets talk about vaginal fisting.

Fisting Myth
There are a couple of common misperceptions about fisting. Many people think that it requires a stretched out pussy to take a fist, or that fisting will make your pussy loose, nothing could be farther from the truth. It takes a tremendous amount of muscle control to relax enough to accommodate a fist. Also your PC muscles, like any other muscle get stronger the more you work them. Think about Yoga, the stretching involved tones your muscles and improves your coordination. The same principle applies to your PC muscles.

Your Mind Set
In my opinion the most important component of fisting, and the one that often is least often addressed is your mind set. If the recipients mind is not willing and completely accepting, the body will not allow entry. I have never met a woman who did not agree that fisting is as equally emotional as it is physical. Many women cry during or after a fisting because of the intense emotions that can be triggered. I would say that with fisting, physical technique is secondary to your willingness and frame of mind. With all this said, trusting your partner is a must, especially for your first time.

Fisting is a sexual act that requires thought, skill, and real connectedness with your partner. Ongoing communication is crucial. You will want to give your partner ongoing encouragement and feedback, and stay within your own comfort level. I find that it is important to have my lover agree to respond to what ever direction I may give. Just as some women may cry after a particularly intense orgasm, it is very common for women to cry during or after being fisting. I suggest a safe word so your lover knows if crying is a result of pain or if your tears are expressing intense emotions.

You will most likely want to process this intense experience by talking afterward. The level of connection that can happen when you are that open to your lover at that deep of a level is amazing, some would say it is a spiritual experience.

It is sometimes helpful to work up to fisting by first playing with some of the larger toys that are available. There are actually fisting toys, two that ATC carries are the Realistic Fist Dong and Realistic Hand Dong. Both the Fist Dong and the Hand Dong are slightly smaller than most hands or fists, and they are slicker than skin, so you may want to start out with them before going "live".

Put The Gloves On!
When fisting, wear latex gloves for safety reasons. One tiny little nick in a fingernail, or an undetected hangnail can wreak havoc on delicate tissue. Keep in mind that it is very difficult to monitor an injury that is internal and out of site. Be safe, even long term partners should wear gloves. Gloves are not only hygienic but are also slicker than skin. Less friction makes for easier insertion. For women with long nails, tape cotton balls to the ends of your fingers with surgical tape before putting on your glove.

Lube, Lube, and More Lube
Use LOTS and lots of lube. Push some inside of your partner as well as lubing up your hand. Be sure and get it all over your hand, the back of your hand, your wrist, and between your fingers. Put some in a bowl or on a paper towel and keep it handy, this will make it easy to apply more as you go. This is not the time to have to dink around with a bottle cap.

Some say that on all fours is a good position, but as a beginner, I recommend that you be on your back so that you can focus on accepting your lovers fist in to you and do not have to be conscious of holding up your body.

Go slowly. Start with one finger and work up. DON'T RUSH. Be sensitive to your lovers’ feelings. You are trying to persuade part of her body to open to you, to accept part of you deeply inside of her. As the recipient your job is to focus on relaxing and receiving. Be aware of your breathing, deep even breathing is important. You may even want to use panting breaths during the final phase of entry. Most importantly, focus your thoughts on acceptance.

The basic technique is as follows: with your hand palm up and your lover on her back, bring your fingers and thumb together to form something that looks like a duck bill. (Take a look at the Hand Dong to see what this looks like) With massaging, and gentle twisting motions, slowly tease your hand into her vagina. When you get past the third knuckles your fingers will start to gently and naturally curve back to form a fist. The entire experience takes time, and plenty of trust, but believes me, it is worth it.

You’re In
Once your hand is all the way in, be still for a moment and allow your lover to accommodate, accept and process these new feelings and sensations, and go slow!!!!! Wait for her to tell you to begin moving your hand. Now the fun begins! Be prepared to watch your lover have what may be the most intense orgasm of her life. She may scream, and moan in ways you have never heard before. She may even cry. Don’t be alarmed. Many women experience female ejaculation, or squirting during fisting, have your towel already in place.

Pulling Out
If your lover suddenly hits their limit, you'll know; their pussy will clench shut suddenly. DON'T PULL OUT. Stay still until the contraction ends, then begin again with your lovers go ahead, or slowly pullout. You can hurt someone and even pull a muscle if you abruptly pull out. To withdraw suddenly can be as shocking as being doused with cold water, your lover needs to relax in to it. It is good idea for the recipient to let out a large slow exhale and bear down when you are SLOWLEY withdrawing your An easy way to have an experience that is very "Full- Filling" and not have to do all of the work required to accommodate a fist, is to try a pump up butt plug. Even though these were designed as anal toys, they work just perfectly for vaginal use.

Ravens Favorite Fisting Tip
Use a vibrator on your clit while being fisted. The additional pleasurable stimulation will help you to relax and assist you in getting smoothly by the more challenging spots, like that final bit of entry. Use something small but powerful like a Vibrating Bullet, or Pocket Rocket so you do not interfere with your partners fisting hand. Hold it yourself so your partner can focus on the job at hand. A Hitachi Magic Wand is wonderful as well and the handle makes it easy to comfortably position, although it is a little more difficult to keep out of the way.

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